You Have A High IQ, But Do You Know Your EQ?

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How emotionally intelligent are you?

At Gateway High School, we believe emotional intelligence lies within the difference between average and amazing. We strive to support character development in addition to academic concept mastery for all of our students, as we know that EQ is just as important as IQ.

Research suggests that social-emotional learning increases academic performance, classroom behavior, stress management, and self-esteem. As a result, to establish a positive environment for all students to engage in education and perform their best academically, we must also establish a foundation of social-emotional learning that contributes to the positive character development for every student.

Social-Emotional Learning

Social-emotional learning is the process through which we understand and manage our own emotions, to be able to accomplish goals, maintain connections, and be fulfilled in our lives. To have a high EQ, it’s important to have a solid foundation of social-emotional learning.

Experts in emotional intelligence often break up social-emotional learning into five core competencies – self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship skills, and responsible decision making. Continue reading to learn more about how this framework is applied in schools and discover strategies to develop emotional intelligence at home.


The first core competency of social-emotional learning is self-awareness. Self-awareness is the ability to identify your own feelings, emotions, and thoughts to discern how they impact your behavior.

In the classroom, it is important to reflect on your strengths and limitations, as well as motivations and concerns, to be self-aware. Establish self-awareness at home by regularly taking inventory of your emotions and being mindful of your thoughts and actions. 


The next core competency builds upon the ability to be aware of how you feel and how that influences your behavior. Self-management is the process of working to have more control over how your feelings, emotions, and thoughts affect you in different situations.

To apply self-management skills at school, it is important to assess classroom behavior, set academic goals, and apply conflict resolution strategies in new situations. To practice self-management at home, take note of how you feel and how that feeling presents itself in your interactions with others.

Social Awareness

Once we have control over how we demonstrate our own emotions, we can learn to have empathy and compassion for others. Social awareness is the ability to recognize the perspectives of others from different cultures and backgrounds.

In learning, students can broaden their understanding with the application of critical thinking and problem solving skills. Build social awareness by taking time to respect the challenges and differences others may have, at home and in your community.

Relationship Skills

When we are able to empathize with others, we can build and maintain healthy relationships. Relationship skills equip you with tools and strategies to connect with others in a meaningful and rewarding way.

At school, students learn to work productively in teams and be considerate of others through participation in group work, athletics and extracurriculars, and classroom activities. Treating others the way you want to be treated, and the way they want to be treated, is an excellent way to apply relationship skills at home and in your community.

Responsible Decision-Making

Lastly, the core competency of responsible decision-making contributes to how effective our character development is. Responsible decision-making is taking the best course of action as it relates to personal behavior and interactions with others.

In education, class meetings and group work can facilitate responsible decision-making that is based on classroom rules. Exercise responsible decision-making at home by using your emotional intelligence to guide your actions and knowing when to ask for help. Be sure to use school support services, like talking to a counselor to help with responsible decision-making.

At Gateway, each student has access to a team of educational and social-emotional professionals to support the development of their IQ & EQ. Our integrated approach to student improvement promotes positive student self-esteem, resulting in a deeper engagement that leads to a positive impact on their academic achievement and their lives. For more information, learn about our student support programs and student life at Gateway.